Let Me RSVP: The Answer is NO
By Susan Mercedes. Filed in Family, Friends, Health, Life |
You know what party is the worst party to attend?
A pity party.
Why? Because you’re the only person who will show up, the only food available will be high in calories and it’ll make you fat and it’s inevitable that you’ll drink excessively and feel like ass the next day.
Sadly, they are the easiest parties to throw. But that doesn’t mean you should attend them. They suck. That’s why it’s important to stop them.
Lately I have spent a lot of time crying. Bawling actually. These tears aren’t because I’m attending my own pity party. These tears are over the sadness others are facing. Some of these stories involve people I don’t even know. Yet I am so moved by their stories that my heart gets super heavy. I can’t help but to send positive thoughts their way.
The upside: It helps me to think of how truly lucky I am. I have my life, my health, a beautiful, healthy daughter, a home, a fabulous career, a smile, a wonderful family, many friends, a sense of humor, a car, food on my table (well, technically at Porcupine - my local pub) and so many more things to be grateful for. After realizing what I have especially when others are faced with such tough times, attending a pity party sounds ridiculous.
The saying below is a reminder of what is important to me…
So love the people that treat you right,
forget about the ones that don’t,
and believe that everything happens for a reason.
If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it.
Nobody ever said that it would be easy;
they just promised it would be worth it.
-anon
Tags: party
Wednesday, April 15th 2009 at 9:32 am
yep…you are so right. the crazy thing about pity parties is after you’ve been to one you never feel better. yet we seem to eagerly attend the next one. we are a crazy lot!
Susan Mercedes Reply:
April 16th, 2009 at 6:17 am
Natalie: We are a crazy lot! I’m trying to improve the world by one less pity party at a time. And by world, I mean my life.
Wednesday, April 15th 2009 at 9:39 am
I’ve stopped living life with Regret a long time ago.. & you know what! I’ve never BEEn Happier!
I learned (finally) that you can’t change peoples opinions.. They’ll think what they want. If they got a problem I just show them my cute Latin Booty & tell them 2 kiss it :p
I plan on taking every chance for a new adventure that I can..
Miss you tons! Keep rockin the blog posts!
Susan Mercedes Reply:
April 16th, 2009 at 6:18 am
H0neyb: I miss you tons too. You inspire me with your wisdom and zest for life. Hugs!
Wednesday, April 15th 2009 at 9:43 am
Wow, this is exactly what I needed to hear this morning.
Thank you.
Susan Mercedes Reply:
April 16th, 2009 at 6:20 am
Darthbender: Sometimes hearing what we already know from someone else gives us clarity. Glad I could do that for you. Have a great day. See you on Twitter.
Wednesday, April 15th 2009 at 9:49 am
Since I forgot to read my daily teaching today, I’m glad you shared this. Awww…………
Susan Mercedes Reply:
April 16th, 2009 at 6:22 am
Kel: Daily teaching…isn’t that a Mormon thing? Was I providing Mormon insight without even being one? Whoa! Crazy.
Wednesday, April 15th 2009 at 10:22 am
You live by the Porcupine? I’ve never been there! That means you also live by the Hog Wallow. Which means no pity parties for you. Unless you want to have them there. In which case, I’ll totally come. I’d go to the Porcupine, too, which I’ve heard is pretty fun.
Today’s post made me smile!
Susan Mercedes Reply:
April 16th, 2009 at 6:23 am
Erin: I do live by Porcupine Pub and Hog Wallow. Maybe we could go there without having a pity party. It would be way more fun!
Glad today’s post made you smile!
Wednesday, April 15th 2009 at 10:46 am
Once I found out that I could have wine without the pity party, I started to just opt for the wine. I would rather laugh and imbibe anyway!
Thank you for inspiring me to make my own list of things that I am grateful for, today.
Susan Mercedes Reply:
April 16th, 2009 at 6:25 am
Heather: Taking the time to think about what we’re grateful for is a great thing to do. And yes, like you, laughing and drinking wine is much more fun than weeping into our stemware. Cheers!
Wednesday, April 15th 2009 at 2:26 pm
This is exactly what I needed today too. I DEFINITELY understand about feeling lucky for having the stuff I do have….a good friend’s baby died this week and now I’m thanking God for every day I’ve got with my daughter. Thanks for writing this today.
Susan Mercedes Reply:
April 16th, 2009 at 6:28 am
Amberly: I think that is what hit me so hard too. Seeing children around me passing away or struggling with illnesses made me so grateful to have a beautiful and healthy daughter. She has taught me how to unconditionally love better than anyone else. Keep smiling!
Thursday, April 16th 2009 at 8:13 am
What a great post. It’s so easy to get caught up, that we forget to be grateful for what we have. A friend recently reminded me that there are people in other parts of the world who would give anything to be in our shoes on our worst days. Thanks for sharing.
Susan Mercedes Reply:
April 17th, 2009 at 6:32 am
Billy: Glad you liked it and you bring up a really good point. You’re right, the people in other countries would be thrilled to walk in my shoes, even the freaking 4″ super high uncomfortable heels, on a day when I’m running a 5K and feel like the world is crashing.